Archive | September, 2014

Getting Back to Me…

22 Sep

In a world of social media – instant updates, likes, favorites you name it instant gratification and acceptance from others is rampant and often desired. Let’s admit it, no matter how much you say “I really don’t do the Facebook thing.” or “Instagram? What’s the point of just posting pictures?” We anticipate that like, double tap or response.

Somewhere deep inside we find it enticing and for some, even a stamp of approval towards your self-esteem. When did we lower ourselves to the opinions others? I will admit that I have fallen victim to this numerous times.

Arizona and I went to breakfast Saturday morning and noticed two cute high school aged young ladies, all dressed up and ready for their day. Full of hope, anticipation and ready to conquer the world. It wasn’t even noon and believe me when I say they were ready! Makeup, heels and cute outfits. We chuckled and said that used to be us….

My question is what made us stop? Maybe a failed attempt to not trigger the low self-esteem, envy or jealousy of others? Tired of hearing comments towards our appearance or not wanting to draw any attention to ourselves. Did we let negativity slip into our thought life and behavior? Who knows…I write this very carefully because I am not saying we are walking around looking busted and disgusted. HA! That is definitely not the case. But if we don’t have plans or an event to attend, it’s most likely a jeans and T-Shirt day and maybe some cute flats but heels, with no plans, not even a chance.

I remember a time when I would not even leave the house without a pair of heels on. I just love them. People would ask me if I even owned a pair of tennis shoes. One time in church someone even complained about our heels…said they were too high and stated we should not be able to serve in heels (really lady that is what you was focused on during service). Now that was funny!!!

Let me balance this out a bit for the analytical people, I am not saying that wearing heels shows signs of confidence and self-worth. However, I am encouraging everyone to be comfortable in the skin you are in. Take pride in God’s creation each and every day.

Be ready for whatever may present itself to you each day. To the two young ladies yesterday – I thank you for the reminder to conquer each day with sophistication, class and individuality.

Regardless of your plans, regardless of what people say and definitely regardless of any trials and struggles you are going through. Remember, God’s ways are higher and his plans for us are already ordained.


Proverbs 31:25 “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

Psalms 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Romans 12: 1-2 “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God – this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.

~Christine K.

The Beginning (again)

11 Sep

I woke up yet again with “The Unchurched Girl” on my mind. I sent my sister in Christ Arizona a text message asking if she was up and without fail she was right there (I shouldn’t be surprised….this has been our nightly routine for the past 5 years). She asked “Have you created the blog yet?” Ever since the Instagram page was created we have been asked “What does your name mean” I guess I have procrastinated long enough (and she bugged me to the point of no return) Well, I shouldn’t say she bugged me but more pulled my fear to the forefront of my procrastination. I’ve given her countless excuses…..I’m busy with work, I’m tired, I fell asleep at my computer. I guess the excuses must come to end even though I really believed them to be valid reasons…. But the reality of it, I was just scared.

The Unchurched Girl was birthed 2 years ago but only revisited in my thoughts. Why? Because I tried to analyze and figure everything out before just doing what God told me to do, I mean why can’t he just give me the whole plan first? I know that’s not how it works but wishful thinking huh!

Kirk Franklin said it best “Hello Fear.” We have to confront it! Fear; it cripples, paralyzes, creates abnormal paranoia and ultimately robs us of our God given destiny…

God has not given us the spirit us fear….

The Lord is my Light and my salvation, of whom shall I fear….

We recite these saying all the time but have we really taken heed to them. I must admit I only take heed when there is no risk involved and have logically thought out all the steps needed to accomplish the task. But God said in Joshua “Be Strong and Courageous” repeatedly. He didn’t give us a option. The purpose of this blog is to share experiences; lessons learned and uplift one another during this journey of Christianity.

Please do not let the title confuse you. We are active in our local church and believe in the assembly of believers. Unchurched simply means….freedom from tradition, bondage and ultimately the law….that is it. To be comfortable, confident and bold in the image God created us in and NOT APOLOGIZE FOR IT!

I ask that each of you please share your thoughts, questions, comments, and concerns in hopes of encouraging one another. As believers we must stick together and build each other up. We are a family no matter what church you belong too, what city you live in or your nationality.

Remember, we are all God’s children and he show’s no favorites. He loves us equally.


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