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I AM THE NEW GIRL

11 Apr

I forgot what it felt like to be the New Girl. Sure, there’s something a little exciting about being the New Girl. Maybe the New Girl will be wildly accepted and instantly popular. Maybe people will find her mysterious but not threatening. Maybe the New Girl will find a place where she can grow and flourish…Or maybe the New Girl will just be that, another nameless face in the revolving door of the Christian church.

Today it dawned on me that I AM THE NEW GIRL! (insert dramatic pause)  This is a HUGE change. A few years ago I was very comfortable and active in my church. I felt accepted and welcome. I looked forward to Sunday worship and Bible study. I volunteered countless hours in the ministry. I studied at home so that I could be a better servant. I did this without hesitation because I was part of something bigger than me. I was part of a community. Fast forward to today….I am searching for a new community.  

Every Sunday I walk into a church and I don’t know anyone. I’m not a part of the group. I don’t have friends to sit with. I don’t know the pastor’s name, the church mission or the church beliefs. I don’t even know where the bathrooms are. I am the New Girl. Every week Christian community encounter visitors. There are enumerable New Girls I feel like we’re a forgotten group without a spokesman. So today, I’m speaking up. Here’s what I want you to know about the many New Girls that you meet.

1.       I want to belong. I want to be accepted.

2.       It’s not easy walking into a new church. Everyone has well established roles and I have to figure out where I fit in.

3.       I’m self-conscious. I hope that I’m dressed appropriate for your church. If I’m not please don’t point this out to me.

4.       I want someone to smile at me and say hello. It’s super important.

5.       I’ll need some help…I won’t know the words to every song, when to sit, when to stand or where the bathrooms are.

6.       I want to be appreciated but I don’t want to be singled out too much.

7.       I’m not a threat. I’m not here to take your church position. I’m also not the latest Jezebel to infiltrate your church.

8.       I’m nervous.

9.       I want accountability.

10.   I am a Christian. I’m forgiven. I’m secure in my salvation.  

11.   I have been hurt by church. So I might be a little apprehensive.

12.   I’m not into cliques. If you don’t know me that probably means that I don’t know you (just think about that).

13.   I love God.

14.   I want to learn and I want to grow spiritually.

15.   I might not come back. Don’t take it personal. Your church is awesome but it’s just not the place for me.

Unapologetically,

Arizona R. AKA The New Girl 

Live. Love. Forgive.

4 Oct

I was recently challenged to answer the questions below and figured I would share. It took me almost three months to answer these very simple questions. I’m finally at a place of peace to answer wholeheartedly. Enjoy!

Question 1:
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?

The greatest lesson I’ve learned in my life thus far is to live, love and forgive. All of my life experiences have cycled into these three areas. My ultimate quest in life is to live the abundant life God has granted and promised me. I’ve learned that in ordered to do that I must step out on faith and trust that when you love you are bound to get hurt and that is when forgiveness takes place. I’ve also learned that forgiveness is the ability to forgive others but most importantly to forgive yourself even if the other person does not apologize. That is when Godly love kicks in. Understanding that everyone is human and we are bound to get hurt but if we trust God with our pain and to ultimately trust his process for our life. That is when our abundant life that is promised will kick in. Understanding that my life is ordained before the foundations of the world. He knew me before I knew myself and all of my days are ordered and that includes the daily disappointments.

Ok, I’m ranting…Does that make sense? LOL!

Question #2:
How has that lesson shaped your tomorrow?

It has given me peace. Even when I’m battling to keep my peace, I just remind myself that he is control and to trust the process. God’s love heals all wounds, drives out all fears, and surrounds us with his perfect favor for life.

Unafraid,

Christine K.

You Are Covered.

22 Mar

The enemy is threatened when make up in your mind to pursue God.

He’s threathened when you know your worth, value and price in Christ.

He sends us distractions to try to stop our pursuit.

John 16:33 (NKJV) “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

Luke 22:31 “And the Lord said, Simon, Simon! Indeed, Satan has asked for you, that he may sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, that your faith should not fail; and when you have returned to Me, strengthen your brethren.”

When God reveals his purpose for your life and you start in that direction. Get ready for the fight! When I say this has been an eventful 2015 already. I will continue to stand firm on his promises and continue to walk by faith. I’m thankful that Jesus is my high priest and consistently intercedes for me.

Thanks be to God who ALWAYS causes me and you to triumph in our Lord Christ Jesus.

Christine K.~

Rejection.

12 Jan

“Rejection is just God redirecting you into the right path.” We hear it all the time but is it really? I will have to admit, I don’t believe that wholeheartedly. I do believe it can be redirected properly when the individual being rejected actually knows how to identify it. Most people that face rejection don’t know how to deal with it, especially when someone is living in a continuous state of rejection.

Honestly, I would prefer to experience rejection than to be the rejecter. When faced with rejection you feel low, confused, unworthy, like a complete failure. However, that is not the case, most of the time; the rejected person has not done anything wrong.

God tell us that we are accepted when we first accept Christ as our personal savior. Christians take longer than we should to believe that scripture. Oftentimes we do things to try to “fit in” within the community of believers. The whole – I serve in church, I attend every bible study, every conference in hopes to feel accepted by that particular body. Some people even rub noses with the “elites” or give bigger offerings in hopes of being accepted or deemed worthy of positions. Sadly, their hearts are so far from God.

As Christians we are born in the image of God. We are 1st connected to him and he gives us the longing to be connected to others. But this has to be a healthy connection. We cannot lose our identity (or never find it) in hopes of be accepted by man. We should only desire to change ungodly behavior for God and yourself. Not others.

God is a loving and gracious God. He accepts us all. So why do we reject one another? I believe low self-esteem, fear, and pride on the rejecters heart.

And to the one experiencing rejection look to God. Ask yourself are you putting your self-worth, esteem and worthiness in someone else’s hands. Let me answer that question for you, YES!

Do everything unto God, let him order you steps. His love and approval is readily available to you as a gift. When sin entered in this world he loved us enough to send his son to die for you. No one else will ever do that for you. Aim to please God with your faith, back it up with actions and watch your life transform right in front of your eyes.

Be confident in who you are. Be brave enough to face adversity. Be strong enough to walk the narrow path God placed in front of you.

Just Be…

~Christine K.

And We Know…

26 Oct

Romans 8: 28-30:

28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.30 Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.

 And guess what. You have been called. Yes, you. The former drug abuser, backslider, and the rejected one. You have purpose. I wish I could tell you what your purpose is but only God can do that. He is the one who created and individualized the plan just for you. And guess what…the plan is perfect, purposeful and amazing.

9What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived. The things God has prepared for those who love him. 10These are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit.”

I truly believe it. Even when I feel stuck and my life is not moving at the pace I imagined. I always look back at that scripture. I want you to stop right now and take a look around at your surroundings. What you see and whatever is going on, it’s all temporary, whether it’s good or bad. Our life is ever changing and God is NEVER stagnant. He is always working on your behalf.

4He who watches over you will not slumber.

After reading Arizona’s previous post, I called and ask her if she was ok. As I was reading, I couldn’t help but laugh because I could see all her animated facial expressions as she was writing. (I’m pretty sure her keyboard was saying “ouch, I didn’t do it”) I believe she had what we call a “aha” moment. We’ve all had them. When it all just clicks, you just wake up and think “What in the world happen here?” or “It’s time to move forward.” I met that silly girl, 5 years ago at church. I believe without a shadow of a doubt God ordained us to meet.

When we realize that God is with us in every step of our lives, it gives us assurance. Through all the pain, hurt, success, rejection and acceptance, he is there telling us that there is purpose in each season of our life. If we just quiet ourselves and listen. He’s there telling us….

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Don’t settle.

Christine K.

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